Thank you so much for the – no, wait. Does the “so” make it seem insincere? Thank you so much? Let’s try it without the “so”.
Thank you for the……. but does that seem too generic? Like I’m only writing a thank-you card because my mom told me to write a thank-you card?
I really appreciated the…. WE really appreciated the…uh… the thing that you bought us. Crap, what did they buy us again?
There’s an art to writing thank-you cards. Sort of. Maybe there’s only an art to it if you have high-functioning anxiety like I do and you’re worried that the recipient will either think you’re being sarcastic, or think that you’re going a little overboard. “Would I really say ‘thank you SO much for the oven mitt”? I mean, it’s great and all, but it’s just an oven mitt.”
If you’re struggling to find the perfect words to say in a ‘thank you’ card – fret no further, you silly little weirdo. You’ve come to the right place.
For Wedding Gifts
Remember that the key here is to
1) acknowledge the gift, and
2) elaborate on why you like it/how you’ll use it/etc. And, obviously –
3) say thank you
EXAMPLE: “Thank you so much for the vegan recipe book that you gave us for our wedding. We’ve already made the vegan chili – it turned out to be very tasty, even Kyle liked it! We were so happy to see you at the wedding. Having you there to help us celebrate on our special day meant so much to us. Thanks again!”
ALTERNATE EXAMPLE (For someone who gave you a gift but wasn’t able to come to the wedding): “Thank you so much for the coffee maker that you gave us for our wedding. We’ve already put it to good use in the mornings! We were touched by your thoughtfulness and missed you at the wedding. Hope we can catch up soon. Thanks again!”
For Bridal Shower Gifts
The same fundamentals apply here – acknowledge the gift, elaborate on your use for it, and thank the gift-giver. The only difference really is using the word “shower” in place of “wedding”. If you get stuck, ask yourself why this gift is unique, fantastic, handy, beautiful, creative, much-needed, or generous (and then feel free to use one of those descriptive terms to describe it in your thank-you card).
EXAMPLE: “It was so nice to see you at the bridal shower. I can’t wait to start using the essential oils diffuser and the oils that you gave us – the way that you put it all together in the gift basket was so creative! I enjoyed catching up. Thanks for being there and making the day so special!”
For Money/Gift Cards
Well, obviously you don’t want to start out with “thank you for the money”, even though that’s exactly what you’re doing. Thanking them for the money. But really you’re thanking them for their generosity.
EXAMPLE: “Thanks so much for the very generous wedding gift. Everyone can use a little help getting started, and we’re no exception. Your caring means a lot to us, and so do you. Thanks again.”
(or you can talk about what you’re going to do with the money)
EXAMPLE: “We are so grateful for your thoughtful gift. We’re moving into a fixer upper and see quite a few trips to the hardware store in our future, this will help so much. It means a lot to know you’re thinking of us. Thanks again!”
For Your Bridesmaids
Or, really, anyone who was in the wedding and helped to make your big day come together. This includes bridesmaids, groomsmen, ushers, attendants, and anyone else who played a role.
EXAMPLE: “What a great wedding! It wouldn’t have been complete without you. Thank you for being an important part of our special day.”
At the end of the day, remember that thank-you cards don’t have to be overly formal or stuffy, especially with people whom you know really well. Write to them in the same way that you would talk to them during every day conversation. Don’t make writing thank-you cards any harder than it needs to be!