“Will My Husband’s Family Finally Like Me Once We’re Married?”

This may be one of the largest growing pains of all when it comes to getting married, but no one really talks about it.

You’re getting more parents. Not “different” parents – I’m assuming the original mom and dad who changed your diapers and gave you life aren’t going anywhere – these aren’t replacement parents, they’re just… additional parents.

Cool.

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“I Don’t Know If I Want To Take My Husband’s Last Name”

Assuming your husband didn’t offer your family a goat in exchange for your hand, there is no hard and fast rule that says that you have to change your last name.

This tradition originated during the days of Charlemagne and Alfred the Great (AKA: so long ago that people were referred to as “the Great”) when women lacked an independent identity from their husbands. Back in those days when a woman got married, their fathers – who “owned them”, I guess – were literally giving them away as property to their new husbands.. (It actually says that if you dive into the history of all of this – women were considered “property”.)

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What To Write In A “Thank You” Card

Thank you so much for the – no, wait. Does the “so” make it seem insincere? Thank you so much? Let’s try it without the “so”.

Thank you for the……. but does that seem too generic? Like I’m only writing a thank-you card because my mom told me to write a thank-you card?

I really appreciated the…. WE really appreciated the…uh… the thing that you bought us. Crap, what did they buy us again?

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Getting Married: Do We Really Have To Combine Our Finances?

February 26, 2020 in After "I Do", Married Life - No Comments

“So after we get married,” my husband asked me about two weeks before the wedding, “whose bank are we going to use?”



Whose bank are we going to use? Not only did Kyle and I have two separate checking accounts, we also had two separate banks. For now. Word on the street is that “married people” have this saying- “It’s not MY money, it’s OUR money.” 



Right. But, technically, it is still my money, right?

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Everything You Thought About Getting Married (And Why It Isn’t True)

February 13, 2020 in After "I Do" - 1 Comment

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it does not argue about kitchen cabinet organization, or how to load the dishwasher “correctly”. It is not proud, it does not grumble about cleaning hair out of the shower drain or throwing out a full carton of expired Almond milk because someone declared that they were going to “start making smoothies for breakfast” and then forgot about it. (That someone was me – and to be fair, I did make one smoothie before I forgot that I wanted this to be “my new thing”, making a smoothie for breakfast every morning. Do you know how annoying it is to clean the blender? EVERY morning?)



Love is patient. It’s about being patient. The Bible verse – old “love is patient, love is kind” – doesn’t really dig into that, it just assumes that you will know how to be patient with someone you love, and that you won’t get all pissy just because they forgot to clean the lint trap out of the dryer. 



The lint trap is a hot button issue in our house. Really, the dryer in general is pretty controversial. I won’t get into the politics of “how often you should clean out the lint trap” or “how many towels you can stuff in there before you’re going to break the dryer”, because I know that not everyone agrees with me (and because I’VE never broken a dryer, so I really wouldn’t know the answer to that, now would I?)

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