There’s a lot that you can learn about yourself when planning a wedding. For example, I’ve learned that I am a very rare breed of frugal. Meaning – normally I’m not frugal at all.
I mean, I’m not NOT frugal. It’s not like I’m drowning in credit card debt or asking my husband for gas money. But I’m also not saying “Hmm….. two hundred dollars on a couple of (okay, five) shirts from Abercrombie? Gee, I don’t know….” <— I know. I very much know. “I’ll wear those shirts all of the time!” I tell myself. “And what’s two hundred dollars on something that will become a staple in my wardrobe?”
A wedding dress is not a “staple” in anyone’s wardrobe. It’s something that you’ll wear one time, for a few hours, and – honestly if you’re anything like me – you can’t WAIT to take it off at the end of the night. (Not in a sexy way – more in a ‘ohmygod please take this thing off of me’ way.) I enjoy wearing dresses, I like to feel pretty and girly – but…. oof. By the end of the night, after lugging around my heavy ball of lace and tulle that was so tight around my waist it was suffocating me – all I wanted to do was put on fuzzy pajamas, slippers, and curl up in bed like the new, boring-married-person I’d become. Yay.
Needless to say, I didn’t want to spend $5K on this dress. Especially when I considered how many shirts that I could buy at Abercrombie and wear them more than once AND they wouldn’t be itchy and made of tulle.
But if you research “How to save money when planning a wedding” (and by ‘research’, I mean ‘Google” – legitimate “money people” who work in the wedding industry may have better tips) – you’ll get a lot of weird stuff. I don’t know who came up with some of these strategies, but I’ve seen them on more than one website, and they honestly don’t seem like sound advice. (At least not if you’re planning a wedding – although maybe this could work if you were planning, like, a graduation party or something?)