Should We Do A “First Look”?

March 29, 2020 in Ceremony, Wedding Planning - No Comments

The whole idea of a “first look” is to have a cute moment between you and your husband before the ceremony. Traditionally, couples were supposed to keep their distance from one another right up until that moment of “Here Comes The Bride” – (“It’s bad luck”, they said, “You can’t see each other before it’s time”, they said) but, at some point, somewhere along the way, a gutsy bride threw caution to the wind and said “You know what? Screw ‘bad luck’ – we’ve got a cocktail hour to get to, let’s do pictures before the ceremony.”

I don’t know if that’s how it happened. For all I know, they were doing it to be ‘romantic’ and ‘have a private moment together before becoming husband and wife’ (just the two of them and their photographer. Romantic.).

Whatever the reason – there are plenty of benefits to doing a “first look”. 1 – they’re usually really cute photos, 2 – you don’t have to ask your guests to wander around killing time for an hour and a half while you guys are taking pictures, and 3 – (this one may be the most important) depending on what time you’re getting married (and depending on the time of year – like, winter for example when it gets dark at 5pm) lighting may play a critical role. Natural light is always best when it comes to photography, and if you don’t want to have your December ceremony until 4pm – you’ve officially run out of daylight by the time it’s over. Now you have to do the rest of your photos inside against whatever-plain-wall-your-photographer-can-find to use as a backdrop.

Which is not to say that you have to do a “first look” if you’re getting married in December – no one said you have to do a “first look” at all. But if you’re reading this – you are presumably thinking about it. (Otherwise you’re just really, really bored.) So why not take some time to review the pros and cons so that you can make a well informed decision instead of doing what I did and just leaving it up to your future hubby to make the call.

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Eleven Things Every Bride Forgets When Posing For Photos

January 25, 2020 in Ceremony, Wedding Planning - No Comments

“Are you ready?” My dad asked me thirty seconds before we were about to walk down the aisle. The aisle. The wedding aisle.

Up until this moment, I’d been so confident that I wasn’t going to cry at my own wedding. Not that this should be some badge of honor, I just…. I don’t know, I’m not a crier. At least not an “in front of people” crier, or a “happy tears” crier (what are “happy” tears? I have never once cried tears that felt ‘happy’, most of the time they feel like I had a bad day at work or something crazy happened on Grey’s Anatomy, but those tears never feel happy.)

But today? Oof. I don’t know what it is about that moment right before you walk down the aisle, but it’s a lot. No one could have prepared me for all of the feelings – like ALL of the feelings, they were all bubbling to the surface – that would rush over me in that moment. The excitement! And the nerves! And the reality of “this is it! This is the THING that we’ve been planning and talking about and HERE IT IS!’

I wanted to say something witty in that moment – I don’t know why, it’s just me and my dad, my dad certainly doesn’t care if I’m witty. But I wanted to say something to make the moment more… I don’t know, or maybe less….? I don’t know. I just wanted it to be nice, you know? Not just me standing there uncomfortably trying not to cry.

“Are we ready?” Margo, our wedding coordinator, poked her head into the room. My dad said, “I think so” with a smile and I nodded. Because apparently talking when you’re trying not to cry is hard. “Alright,” Margo said, sounding more like a proud stage mom, “It’s time. Let’s go!”

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ceremony etiquette | eight tips to remember as the bride

January 11, 2020 in Ceremony, Wedding Planning

Oh, “etiquette”. It sounds like something that belongs in the Deep South involving: how to fold your napkin, and “which side does the fork go on?”.

This isn’t an etiquette class, and it has nothing to do with forks. For the purposes of this wedding blog – we’re using “etiquette” as a fancy term for “how to NOT be a mean, rude bride” and/or “how to NOT piss off the moms and/or grandmothers because you didn’t do something in a ‘traditional’ way (because you didn’t know there was a ‘traditional’ way to do it – you were just trying to get ready and drink champagne and all of a sudden everyone is asking you about everything.)

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